Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Pink shirt day 2014


WHY WILL THE TEACHERS BE WEARING PINK SHIRTS ON MAY 23 AT RPS?
Pink Shirt Day is about working together to prevent or stop bullying by celebrating people's difference and promoting positive relationships.

An annual event celebrated in many countries around the world, Pink Shirt Day encourages people to talk about bullying and take action against it. On Pink Shirt Day, Friday 23 May 2014, we ask New Zealanders to Speak up. Stand together. Stop bullying.  


PINK SHIRT DAY BEGAN IN NOVA SCOTIA, CANADA IN 2007. A GROUP OF STUDENTS DECIDED TO DEFEND A KID WHO WAS BULLIED FOR WEARING A PINK SHIRT. IN A SHOW OF SOLIDARITY, MANY OF HIS PEERS TURNED UP TO SCHOOL THE NEXT DAY WEARING PINK SHIRTS, AND PINK SHIRT DAY WAS BORN. BY WEARING A PINK SHIRT, PEOPLE IDENTIFY THEMSELVES AS AN ALLY. THE PINK SHIRT IS A WAY OF SHOWING THOSE BEING BULLIED THAT THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE AROUND WHO CARE. 
SPEAK UP.
STAND TOGETHER.

STOP BULLYING.


What to do if you are being bullied?   

Being bullied can make you feel very alone. Sometimes it can feel like it will never stop, that no one can help you, or even that you deserve to be treated this way.
“Be proud of who you are. It’s okay to be a nerd – Einstein was a nerd, and look where he ended up. It’s their problem, not yours. Who you are is great.”
Finn, 10 

No one deserves to be bullied
All of us need a little extra help sometimes. Reaching out is a brave thing to do. Connecting with others can help you feel less alone, and empower you to start creating change.
It’s normal to feel frightened or even ashamed when you tell someone you’re being bullied. Don’t let this stop you from asking for help!

Find someone to talk to
Be mindful when choosing who to talk to. Figure out the best person in your community for you to approach. This might be your elders, a kaumatua, youth leaders, a parent, a friend or someone at school. The important thing is that you trust this person.
If the person that you talked to doesn’t help you, don’t give up, find someone else. We know that young people often report bullying as being more severe than adults perceive it. This sometimes makes it hard to connect with adults, but don’t give up. Silence doesn’t change anything. If you’ve experienced bullying, a good thing to do is write down the where, who and when of the occurrence. This can make it easier to talk to someone about what has happened.
You can also call a helpline. Helplines are staffed by trained volunteers who are there to listen to what’s going on in your life, and help you to find solutions to what’s bothering you.      


Helplines
     Youthline - 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz

                  What's Up (for 5-18 year olds; 1 pm to 11 pm) - 0800 942 8787.

                 Kidsline (aimed at children up to 14 years of age; 4 pm to 6 pm weekdays) – 0800 54 37 54 (0800 KIDSLINE).

        OUTLine NZ - 0800 688 5463 (OUTLINE) (provides confidential telephone support for sexuality or gender   
                                  identity issues).

   Suicide Crisis Helpline (aimed at those in distress, or those who are concerned about the wellbeing of someone else) - 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO).


If you want to report someone else’s behaviour to your school, it might help to take a friend with you for support and backup.


More tips
   Find safety in numbers – walk to, from, and around school with friends.
   Stand up for yourself – this can be really hard, but sometimes showing your strength and telling people their behaviour is unacceptable can be very powerful. If it happens again, it can be really helpful to be able to tell your parents or school that you’ve tried to manage the situation on your own and let that person know that you don’t like how they’re treating you.
   Walk away – often bullies thrive on attention. Starving them of attention by ignoring them and removing yourself from the situation is a powerful thing to do.
   Write down what happened to you, as many details as you can remember.
   Don’t attack others – you’ll just become a part of the problem.


How to protect yourself from cyber bullying
   Share only what you would be happy to have shared (keeping in mind that other people may share your information, too).
   Have strong passwords and keep them to yourself (and perhaps a parent).
   Do not answer any emails/texts that you feel uncomfortable with.
   Do not answer emails/texts/friend requests from people you don’t know.
   Be careful what you write - do not respond to others if you are angry or frustrated.


What can I do if I am being cyber bullied?
   Do not react - it gives the bully power. Don’t reply to text or online messages (we know this can be hard).
   Print out or screenshot examples of cyber bullying and show them to someone else.
   Report cyber bullying to social media sites, phone companies or internet companies.
   Block the phone number/profile you are receiving the messages from.
   Save what has happened to show parents, teachers or police.
   Use assertive responses only if you need something to happen e.g. “Remove this post immediately”.
   Ask for help.


Getting through
While addressing bullying is a good thing, if you’re not ready, or you’re finding things tough, find things to make you feel better and boost your self-confidence.
We asked the members of Rainbow Youth’s Generation Queer group what to do to make yourself feel better when you’re being bullied. These are some of their tips:
   Listen to music.
   Share your story with an online community you feel safe in – such as Tumblr – and pay attention to the positive responses you get.
   Play a video game and lose yourself in it for a while.
   Text someone you love – like your mum or a friend, and just vent.
   Let yourself be heard. It’s not always about finding solutions; sometimes it’s about being understood.
   Talk to overseas/removed friends who aren’t involved in the situation and don’t know the people involved.
   Write a long letter and burning the paper as a way of release.
   Writing a letter and giving it to your dean/principal to actually fix the problem rather than mask the symptoms.
   Do some exercise – it will make you feel more positive and optimistic.

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